Learn handle people who try to control you.
Instructions
1. Identify the struggle and its basis. Why is the person trying to control you? How are they making the attempt - with words or actions? Verbal attempts at control are easier to deal with than actions so it is important to first assess the situation. Are you certain that they are trying to control you and not vice versa?
2. Come up with a few clear statements defining your belief. Don't attempt to argue with the person or make them see your side. You don't need to explain yourself to anyone. Make certain that you are in tune with your feelings regarding the situation, and if you cannot fully explain why you feel a certain way, IT DOESN'T MATTER. You don't owe anyone an explanation.
3. Be clear but polite, not argumentative. "I appreciate your concern, however..." or "Thank you so much for the idea but..." or "You have so many great ideas! I'll have to keep them in mind for he future." Always start out with a positive. People often attempt control because they want to feel they are contributing something. If you give them what they want with verbal affirmation you can still make someone feel good about themselves without allowing them to run your life.
4. If the person becomes insistent or continues the controlling behavior it must be addressed. A direct confrontation may be necessary for people who don't get the hint. It should be handled with the same positive attitude but include more insistent directions that will be clear to the person such as, "I need to make my own decisions" or "I don't feel I need to explain my choices to you if you are going to argue with me". Remember that controlling behavior is a sign of something lacking within the individual attempting to control - you are better than that and don't need to engage in pointless arguments explaining your actions to anyone.
